After all the chaos happening with my ex I had an appointment with the RCMP, they called my after the incident and asked to come in and talk to them “so they could close the file”. Again I gave people to much credit. I had been told the interview would be with a representative from child services. When I showed up the worker was there and was nice to me and introduced herself to me. As soon as I got in the doors however the situation went a full 180. I was immediately placed under arrest for assault, locked in a tiny room with a phone to call and get some legal advice. The advice simply consisted of don’t say anything. They’ll probably let you go with paperwork just ask for that. Of course having never been on this situation before I was confused and thought as soon as I said I was advised to not speak the interview would be over. That was not the case. I had written down a bunch of information that I wanted to convey but I wasn’t allowed to explain anything. The police officer kept saying “if I were you I’d want to tell my side”. I was just devastated. I should add the representative wasn’t in the room she was watching me on camera as well as another officer.
Lies the police told me
They only wanted to talk to close the file.
They contacted social services and were informed it would talk two weeks to be assigned a caseworker.
A lie by omission was telling me I couldn’t see my son for 2 weeks when in reality this will probably takes months to resolve.
The social worker that was watching the interview was only there to be representative, and not the actual caseworker She has actually scheduled days to talk to my older children and my husband.
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I was being interviewed for over 2 hours while basically being asked the same questions and being shown pictures of my son not only after this event but apparently he had been taking pictures of marks on my kid since December. He’s a pretty clumsy kid but the marks I saw made no sense to me. They definitely weren’t at my hands or happen at my house. In fact last March my son had hit his head so hard at mid dads house he has a huge scar. I never thought to take a picture of that and make any accusations.
While I was being fingerprinted and had mug shots taken the constable was making some very back handed and inappropriate remarks. One thing she did say was I’m sure if you were on the other side of this you’d be happy we were doing all this. I turned to her and said that’s the thing, I would never be on the other side of this because I’d never make accusations about my ex because no matter how much I don’t like him he’s our sons father and I know he’d never intentionally hurt him. (Something I wasn’t afforded) that’s the first time she was speechless this whole time.
After I was placed under arrest my husband and parents were hunting down lawyers for me and they found a pretty good one. It’s frustrating though that I have to use thousands of dollars to defend myself. Not only is my ex running my reputation through the mud he’s jeopardizing my career ( I get criminal record checks every 5 years) also if I ever want to work in any other form of law enforcement he’s potentially ruining that too. On top of that he’s trying to financially ruin me. This is still him abusing me, it will never end! He’s putting all my other kids at risk and doesn’t care about any of them. He only cares about himself because frankly this isn’t about our son.
I’m having heart surgery on either sept 3 or 10th and now I have a court appearance on the 17 while I’ll be in recovery. This is an insane low and I’m going through life like I’ve hit by a bus. Barely functional and just frankly can’t believe this is my life!
Journey to the now. 